By: Logan Cohen - Founder of New Leaf Counseling Group - A Diverse Counselor & Therapist Team in Charlotte, NC
There are 4 Causes of Communication Problems in Your Relationship:
#1 Cause of Communication Problems - Stonewalling
"Stonewalling" is a refusal to communicate or cooperate. This behavior occurs in situations between a romantic couple, diplomatic negotiations, politics and legal cases. Body language may indicate and reinforce this by avoiding contact and engagement with the other party. This refusal to engage shuts down any chance of productive communication.
#2 Cause of Communication Problems - Criticism
"Criticism" is a statement that attacks or puts down your partner's personality or character traits, rather than addressing the specific behavior itself.
This is VERY different from providing constructive feedback that can be heard, understood, and accepted by our Partner.
#3 Cause of Communication Problems - Defensiveness
"Defensiveness" is a tactic focused on self-protection in the form of either rationalization (reasons for why behavior in question was selected) OR minimization (denying the importance of the feedback from the other party).
#4 Cause of Communication Problems - Contempt
"Contempt" is the most destructive one of these 4 different communication problems.
This involves treating your partner with disrespect, disgust, ridicule - or otherwise "looking down" on them. It may involve mean-spirited sarcasm, mockery, eye-rolling, sneering, or name-calling.
Ready to learn more about the 4 Communication Problems that will WREAK HAVOC on your Relationship? Not sure whether the silence in your Relationship is a sign of Intimacy or Stonewalling? Read this article HERE
Would you like to know how to find REAL INTIMACY AND CONNECTION IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP? Watch this short video here to see how else you and/or your loved ones might be complicating things HERE
If you are ready to have productive conflict with your Partner WHILE you create more intimacy in the relationship, please consider contacting our diverse counselor and therapist team at New Leaf Counseling Group in Charlotte, NC.
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